Secrets for online dating
This applies to women in particular, but not exclusively.
Take it from someone whose new “friend” ran up the bar tab while keeping her purse hidden all night: Start with coffee. The sad fact is that some people are just looking for an excuse to go out with especially a naïve chump who will pick up the bill. Case in point: After connecting online and hitting it off over an extended phone conversation, I met a woman for a happy-hour drink.My own encounters revolved around OK Cupid and Plenty of Fish, both of which are free dating sites.Here’s what I learned: If you’re looking for someone of similar interests and lifestyle, the more specific you can be upfront, the better. What was the last good book your read, or film you saw?For instance, does “loves sports” mean you’re up for cross-country skiing and white-water rafting, or is it a declaration that every weekend is devoted to channel-surfing the pro and college games? Potential dates skimming your profile are more likely to respond to specifics.Believe me, it’s a much better strategy than scheduling a coffee date and finding you have little or nothing in common.This advice applies to both sexes: Don’t post pictures of yourself from 10 years and/or 40 lbs. Don’t rave about your intense exercise regimen when you’re really a couch potato.
Don’t claim to be a gourmet cook when you can barely boil water.
You may be brilliant, handsome, wealthy and a great humanitarian, but you’re a non-starter without the visuals.
Are you looking for an occasional dinner companion, a friends-with-benefits arrangement or a marriage candidate? The more clarity and candor you can muster (within the boundaries of good taste), the better.
“Fast Freddy ‘55” may think his bad-boy behavior is secretly a turn-on for women, but he’s deceiving himself.
The majority of women I spoke with said they refuse to acknowledge crude come-ons.
some simple steps you can take to make your online dating experience successful (yes, really!