Dating rejection after divorce
Did they reject you because you’re not tall enough, smart enough, attractive enough, rich enough, educated enough, or hip enough? Then you start to second guess everything you did and said.
Therefore, there is utterly no point in trying to blame yourself or any perceived flaw you might have.While your ex-husband likely played a part, did you have any destructive habits?Blame is one of the most common destructive habits I've seen in couples.In fact, the overlap was so substantial, that when researchers gave people the pain reliever Acetaminophen (Tylenol) and put them through a rejection experience, they reported feeling significantly less emotional pain than those who did not receive Tylenol.That’s why rejections hurt as much as they do, not because there’s anything wrong with you — because you’re simply wired that way.First, ask yourself if the person you're with has the qualities you'd want in a long-term partner. Or is the physical attraction blinding you to how wrong you really are for each other?
Another question to ask: Am I happy alone even without a man in my life?
As you heal from your divorce and think about the lessons you learned from it, your new relationship can be transformed from a rebound relationship to a real relationship, as long as it's based on more than just physical attraction.3. It's time to start having an internal dialogue with yourself.
Did you spend enough time alone after your divorce to really think about what caused the collapse of your marriage?
Whether your online messages to dating prospects go unanswered, you have a great first date but never hear from the person again, or you get dumped after things were just starting to heat up, all rejections have one thing in common — they really hurt.
What makes rejection even more painful is that any effort to understand what went wrong can easily lead to bouts of self-criticism and self-blaming.
All this self-punishment makes you feel utterly miserable and you wonder when you became so weak, needy, or desperate.